Shame can begin in early childhood or anytime in life through various interactions that shape our sense of self-worth. When faced with strong criticism, neglect, or abuse, individuals often internalize these negative experiences, leading to feelings of being fundamentally flawed and unloveable. This can result in a lifetime struggle with low self-esteem and the adoption of coping mechanisms like perfectionism, people-pleasing, or masking one’s true self. These defensive responses, aimed at avoiding rejection and gaining acceptance, often lead to further emotional distress and disconnection from one’s genuine self. Understanding and addressing these shame-based patterns is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships.
In this video, the outworkings of a shame based identity are shared and therapy can help to reverse the impact of shame.
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